When You Can't Move On (How to Begin to Move Forward & Heal)
Letting go of a certain someone, a dream unborn or the path we didn’t choose is a necessary step in order for us to fully move on to the next chapter.
Clearing any sort of unresolved emotions of the past, such as regret, and finding more resolve around what was or what could have been will help us be able to put our focus and energy toward what could be.
Finding peace around “what is” based on what happened in our past or what never had a chance to work out is what some of us have to figure out how to do in order to move forward. Quieting any regret and coming to a more neutral and accepting place around our past is what will help us to let go.
for some of us; this can feel like an impossible thing to do.
a reminder:
Letting go doesn’t mean that we need to like what happened; however, it does mean that we need to find a way to accept what happened.….eventually; in due time.
Letting go is something that we’ll have to do time and time again in this life. Of both little and big things. Letting go is a skill and it’s a skill that you can acquire.
It’s the skill that will, ultimately, help you move forward and move on.
Personally; I’m continually working on letting go. Learning how to do so has been one of my biggest lessons in this life thus far: how do i let go of him? what didn’t happen for me? the fear of what’s to come?
Can you relate?
The hard part in letting go is when we find ourselves struggling to accept a truth that can feel unbearable, a truth that’s unwanted, hard to swallow and presently indigestible.
how does one do that? how do you accept something that you can’t face?
the first thing we have to do is begin to start facing what feels so hard and go toward where there’s tons of resistance. (Yes, very hard to do, yet it’s the way out.)
We hear it all the time; go toward your fear; face your fear. Hard, yet true.
what do we do when we have no energy to make any move at all toward positive change because: it’s. just. too. hard?
I know in my darkest of days, while clinging to my past, any suggestion toward change or trying something different is met with major resistance. My resistance rejects change. Any helpful suggestions are shut down hard and fast. My stuck mindset creates a “no way out” situation, which leads to me feeling hopeless.
The longer I remain in my resistance and stuck mindset the bigger “the beast” gets. My resistance plays victim in believing that “nobody gets it,” and “nobody can relate.” All of these rigid and negative beliefs perpetuate my feelings of isolation and loneliness; and so it goes.
The cycle will keep going around and around like this if I don’t do anything to shift toward the light. So, how do I shift toward the light?
How does one put a stop to any cycle of mental madness? suffering? the pain of a self imposed prison?
Here’s what i know, which is sometimes a frustrating & hard truth:
I’m the one who needs to make the choice to change.
I’m the only one who can start moving toward a different perspective, practice different thoughts and make different decisions throughout my day. Nobody is going to do it for me. If I want a different feeling state; I have to pick different thoughts. Little by little, different thoughts will help to get my mind / body / soul back into a healthier space in order to do the positive actions that I need to do to get myself out of the dark.
Easier said than done; I know. Bare with me as we now discuss actionable steps to help you toward your light.
To begin this positive shift forward; we first have to address our ability to be vulnerable.
why vulnerability?
Our ability to be vulnerable, feel the discomfort and the pain and allow others that we trust and love to support us through to the other side is an important first step in reconnecting back to our source energy; our authenticity.
The point of this step toward vulnerability is to reconnect us back to a healthy support system. Whether that’s reconnecting with a past support system or reinventing a new one; connecting with good, healthy minded people is a foundational peace to start your new chapter. We all need a community of people to help us through in this life. As the story goes; “it takes a village;” nobody can do this (life) alone successfully.
*Don’t have that community yet? That’s okay; becoming more vulnerable will allow you to attract the “right” people to you. Allowing you to begin to build key relationships to help you expand and grow.
The way forward
How do we move forward when we don’t know how to accept our past?
How do we let go of the regret or pain we carry from painful events, missed opportunities and lost connections?
truth:
Until we find inner peace around what has already been written; we will feel & be unable to fully let go of what happened in the past; leaving us unable to move on. Working through and allowing ourselves to feel the grief of the buried pain and eliminating the rumination of what was or what didn’t happened for us is the self reflective & inner work that will release us from the past.
5 reasons why you can’t move on
1. Waiting for the Grass to Be Greener
You’re holding off on doing things that would be positive for you to do until you “feel better.” When we’re struggling with moving forward; we tend to struggle emotionally and mentally with factors such as low self worth, depressive symptoms, low energy, low mood, feelings of hopelessness and indecision. As we all know, it’s really challenging to do self serving things when we’re feeling so depleted of life energy. This keeps us in a negative loop of staying in our ground hogs day routine that perpetuates our stagnant reality.
2. Consistent & Loud Self Judgement
We all have an inner voice that’s talking to us all day long. The quality, tone and message of that voice is what’s determining the reality of our lives in so many respects. Having a fixed timeline around where we think we should be in life and should have done in our lives thus far can be keeping us majorly stuck and in anxiety.
It can take a lot of work (depending on where you’re from, where you live and what the messages of those around you are) to find peace around your current reality. It can be all too easy to get caught in the comparison game with the chronic available exposure of everybody’s life. (the scrolling of the highlight reel can really get to us.)
Simple point being that critical self judgement will strip us of joy.
3. Holding onto the Past via Rumination
One main reasons why we feel unable to let the past go is because we’re stuck in “trying to figure out why” what happened; happened.
It’s crazy making. We can spend countless hours running through situations, again and again, hoping for some kind of clue that will help us find “the answers.” This quest for a particular “answer“ leaves us more intangled in the past. It leaves us further engulfed in what was. Directing our energy to what was instead of what could be is how we remain severely stuck.
what is rumination?
Rumination is a repetitive thought process that involves dwelling on negative feelings, distress, and their causes and consequences. It’s a dangerous loop because often in life we will never be able to “figure out” why things have happened and occurred as they did because sometimes things just don’t make sense.
sometimes, actually often, there’s no particular answer; it just is what it is. This leaves the want to “figure it out” a never ending, unhealthy trap toward major pain and suffering.
Also, there’s often other people’s actions and synergy at play that we cannot decode. It’s not ours. We will never be able to enter the ethers of another’s mind in order to figure out why they chose to say, do or react how they did.
Hear me: when you stop trying to do this; you will find freedom.
Needless to say; rumination and overly thinking about a situation to death is a trap toward unhappiness.
4. Your Self Defeating Story
Oh, the narratives that we hold and tell ourselves on the daily. When I say "narrative,” I’m referring to our story (for worse or better) that we believe to be true about ourselves, the world or a situation.
5. Lacking Positive Belief in Something Bigger
Believing in something bigger and trusting that we’re being supported by something beyond us, helps us to be and remain hopeful.
When we don’t have something bigger for us to believe in, lessening our resistance toward change and, ultimately, letting go is hard to do.
How can we move forward if we don’t have hope?
5 ways to begin healing, move forward & let go
1. Create greener grass now In truth; the grass will get greener as we take the small steps toward doing things differently, now. As we’ve all heard, change is often slow and happens over time. Taking the pressure off of yourself to wait for the right moment when you “feel better” or have more energy might never come around until you take a positive step to give you that in which your waiting for.
The time is now; think about a small step toward different action that you can take today. It doesn’t matter how small it is; I just encourage you to do something different.
2. Work on eliminating self judgement through mindfulness practices, meditation and core personal work
Often, we have to look toward healthy and consistent wellness practices to bring into our lifestyle to get us back to a good rhythm. Just as we couldn’t be physically in shape if we never worked out and engaged in activities to allow our body to be fit; the same is true for our mental wellness muscles.
Find a wellness medium that works for you to engage consistently in and grow & learn from. It could be a podcast, book, deep breathing techniques, meditation, going to therapy, etc. Explore ways that you can work on functioning with less judgement of both yourself and others.
3. Address Your Negative Habit of Rumination
As mentioned above; our habit of rumination is keeping us stuck on the past. In order to move on; learning to redirect and guide your mind toward self serving thoughts rather than obsessing and highly focusing on thoughts that create distress, anxiety and fear is required.
Start with becoming more aware of when you ruminate. Bring in breathe work techniques such as box breathing to help calm your parasympathetic nervous system and help you achieve greater presence.
*If your over thinking and rumination is severe; it might be a good idea to get support from a licensed mental health professional. Find an article to support your search for the right therapist for you HERE.
4. Eliminate Unhealthy Narratives
Breaking down the narrative(s) that are keeping you stuck in the past and holding you in a purgatory state of life is essential toward moving on.
Combat your false stories of what you believe to be true with fact.
Allow yourself a way out of your self sabotaging stories and resistance by focusing on facts; not your negative false fearful stories or self fulfilling prophecies.
To shift, begin to engage with thoughts that allow you to have “a way out.” Pay attention to how your thoughts make you feel in your body / mind. When a thought feels bad, learn to pay attention and guide yourself to a better feeling thought. Do this practice with intention and awareness. Practice it daily and with time you will notice a difference in your overall feeling state.
5. Trust in Something Bigger Than You
Maybe “something bigger” for you is a religion, a spiritual belief system, the universe, a specific God. Whatever it may be; find something beyond you to ground in and believe in. Having positive belief and faith is a comforting & needed way of thinking in order to move forward. Especially when you’re stuck with no direction on how to proceed forward; hope is mandatory in order to take chances and remain healthy minded.
Also too; don’t forget about the concept of divine timing:
“Divine timing is the idea that everything happens at the right moment; even if it's not what you want or expect. It can manifest as a meaningful coincidence, gut feeling, or challenging obstacle. Divine timing can also be a way for the universe to look out for you, helping you avoid pitfalls or take advantage of opportunities.”
I hope that you feel supported and have some sort of idea for a way out of any unhealthy mindset that’s holding you back from moving on to more fulfilling times.
Looking for more?
*find a similar article on the topic of longing HERE
*Image by photographer Amy Lynn Bjornson.
How to Change Your Life (how to create positive change)
If you’re feeling stuck and struggling to let go of what was; I want you to take this next statement in and evaluate if it resonates for you:
You can only fully let go of the past when you create a new life that you want to be actively involved in.
Are you annoyed, resistant, in agreement with or at peace when you hear this? How does that statement make you feel?
Waiting for something outside of you to change your state of being (a relationship, a job shift, any outside influence) will not help you to gain the skills and confidence that changing your own circumstances will. It’s a practice to have the inner knowing to make the intentional choices to change your life for the better. It’s a skill that can be cultivated over time with your continuous action of making your thoughts things. Meaning, bringing your thoughts to life; creating the experiences, and the feelings that you desire to feel. Simply put; you can learn how to do this.
Some of us had this modeled to us in life via our parents or caregivers, and some of us were taught to do what we were told and were influenced more from control of what others wanted for us.
Either way, the reality is that when we become “adults,” what we create from our life circumstances is up to us. This can be incredibly over whelming if we don’t feel confident (because we weren’t shown or are out of practice) to make decisions for ourselves.
Q: If your stuck in feeling overwhelmed and lack knowing what you want or what move to make next, what do you do?
A: You make small, tiny shifts one day at a time.
When we’re stuck; that usually suggests that we have a habit of brushing away our “possibility thoughts.” Meaning, even when we do have an idea of something that lights us up a bit, we slam it down so fast that it has no time to breathe and cultivate change for our lives.
To begin getting out of this habit that keeps us numbed out and in a groundhogs day reality, we have to be really intentional about checking ourself when we have our possibility thoughts. If you can learn to allow the possibility thoughts to be there without tearing them up and convincing yourself that it’s impossible, these thoughts will get more air time. As they get more time to breath and be in your internal space, it’s just a matter of time that you will start taking some sort of action toward these thoughts. Taking different action toward thoughts that are outside of your normal will lead you toward change.
Keep in mind that it’s usually the small things that happen repeatedly overtime that lead to really different circumstances. Gently guiding yourself to go to a different workout class. Encouraging yourself to socialize with people that you don’t know that well, but are drawn to get to know better. Facing things that feel uncomfortable, but you have curiosity around. These are the everyday circumstances that have the potential to create big change in your life.
Just sit and let yourself be conscious of the things that you actually do want for your life. Sometimes we’re so used to making what we really want feel so impossible that we have detached from allowing ourselves to feel excitement or believe in change. We just stay cemented in our comfort zone of Blah.
The thing is that blah doesn’t need to be our reality. It really doesn’t. However, it is true that we have to make some effort toward doing things a bit differently for our lives to pan out differently. It’s like wanting to get into shape without moving your body; sounds pretty impossible. You actually do have to get your heart rate up and body moving to condition it into shape physically. No pill, surgery or talking about it enough is going to change your physical reality until you do something different. This so is true with your life and the external circumstances that surround you.
Once you start doing something different, life will usually start dancing with you to help you orchestrate new energy and new possibilities for your life.
See it for yourself; do one tiny thing different today. I challenge you to do so. Let me know how it goes.
Cheers to my dear readers. Thanks a million for being here with me.
*Above image is by photographer, Paige Nelson.
on letting go
”they asked her,
“what does letting go mean?”
she answered,
letting go does not mean erasing a memory or ignoring the past; it is when you are no longer reacting to the things that used to make you feel tense and you are releasing the energy attached to certain thoughts. it takes self-awareness, intentional action, practice, and time. letting go is the act of getting to know yourself so deeply that all delusions fall away.”
-Yung Pueblo from Clarity & Connection (I highly recommend this book!)
Q: How do you let go when you don’t know how to let go?
For some of us, it’s a skill that we don’t have to think that much about; We. Just. Let. Go. It’s a natural “knee jerk” reaction. This could be because of growing up with influences (like our parents) that naturally taught us to let go via example. Maybe in words. Maybe in actions, the point being that we had the very healthy example of non attachment, allowing and surrendering. All that is required with letting go.
And….drumroll….some of us did not have that example.
If you’re struggling with the process of letting go, this post is for you.
This read is for the person who tends to hold on real tight and suffers greatly when “things don’t go as planned” or feels “out of control.” A lack of flexibility and a constant need for control creates a lot of anxiety and stuck energy. “Stuck energy” will show up as a lack of flow and chronic frustration. Not “letting go” or (AKA) “not allowing” is usually partnered with a feeling that you will never get beyond the situation at hand.
This may or may not be conscious for the person who struggles with letting go, which is why my words present an opportunity for your self introspection. Pay attention to your unique relationship with the concepts of fear and control. Usually when we hold a lot of fear and find comfort in control, the act of letting go will be very difficult for us.
Our inability to let go can get physical:
When we suppress our feelings by ignoring them or burying them deep within, they cannot pass through and, therefore, remain stuck. A buildup of unprocessed emotions can manifest physically in our bodies: physical pressure across our bodies, specifically the back and neck. Some of the physical symptoms that you can experience are digestive issues, acne, achy joints, irritability, insomnia, headaches, to name some.
How to let go:
Instead of ignoring, escaping or blocking an emotion allow it to come up. (I know this is hard, especially for those of us who have created the habit of ignoring or avoiding our emotions.) The beginning of your healing journey toward letting go in a healthy way is to start allowing yourself to feel your emotions. Not selectively, but collectively. All of them. The good. The “bad” and the “ugly.” Accept them all for they all are screaming for a platform to be expressed and felt so they can feel heard and then settle in a peaceful way.
Be aware of false stories convincing you that “it’s better not to feel.”
Be aware of the rationalizations that the mind creates in an attempt to validate and defend negative feelings, “old stories” or stuck behaviors. We often have become very savvy at protecting ourselves from our difficult emotions, so we have set up some pretty convincing validation of why it’s better to avoid feeling or confronting our emotional world. (Again, this can be conscious or not.) *This is another opportunity for you to reflect on where you’re at with confronting or validating your specific emotions.
Questions to consider for journaling and reflection:
What events or feelings do you avoid thinking about?
What happens to you emotionally and physically when someone brings up a topic that is hard for you to talk about or think about?
How to allow an emotion to surface: (especially when it’s difficult) Just feel …….and feel ………..and feel until that emotion runs its course. Stay with it. Breath through it. Be with it and, eventually, with your commitment to feel, your patience to stay, it will pass friends. It will.
“Feelings are wordless.” To process feelings let the sensations or feelings come and go freely. Letting go is something that you can learn how to do if it’s a struggle for you. It does require your willingness and bravery to face the things, emotions and events that you have been avoiding or validating away.
My hope is for the above words and perspectives to help you grow and evolve. If you feel like you need more support with learning the skills to let go, feel free to reach out to me or check out this post on how to find an aligned mental health professional to help you with this process HERE.
* Above image is by Photographer, Renata Amazonas
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How to Let Go and Move On
A common way that we can get stuck in our lives is by investing in the illusion that the past “should’ve or could’ve” been different. Any time that we’re resisting what IS, we will feel stuck on some level. Although it can be difficult to do, chances are that you will find clarity and an unfolding of an answer by letting go.
Letting go of trying so hard. Letting go of the negative stories that are racing around and around in your head. Letting go of what you can’t control.
Just. Let. Go.
There may be many different stories, beliefs and ways of seeing things for you to let go of. In that case, a great place to start is with allowing the past to be exactly as it was; for worse or for better. Life will present us with all kinds of contrast, therefore if we continue to believe that circumstances “should of” and “could of” been different, we will be chronically stuck.
Let go of the illusion that life could have been any different. To free yourself from the past, believe that everything is happening in divine order. The past was and the present is as it should be.
Freedom and peace will come when we allow everything that has happened to just BE. Where we can focus our energy is on what we can create as the journey ahead of us unfolds. By taking inspired action and focusing on what we can do, little by little we will be led toward shift and change.
Cheers today to letting go. Sending good vibes your way as you move forward and create the change and shift you desire by letting go.
*Image above by photographer, Amy Lynn Bjornson
The Art of Letting Go
As much as I believe in talking something out, I also believe that there’s a time and place where, in order to stay balanced and healthy, a pestering issue needs to be laid to rest. Overly talking about and ruminating over an issue, can easily become more the issue. Meaning, too much attention on the perceived problem becomes the problem itself. Trying to figure out the problem. Trying to understand the problem. Worrying about the problem. Talking in circles about the problem.
This bad habit causes suffering and leads to absolutely nowhere.
Being a natural over analyzer myself, I’ve personally found that after enough healthy introspection has been done around a specific issue, turning toward what’s light, inspiring and fun is an important step toward moving beyond something. When you’re going through something difficult, you have to be reminded that there’s joy on the other side of the issue. You need proof that you can feel good again. You can only find this proof when you allow yourself to be in the space outside the worry.
The other day, I randomly grabbed a magazine to read at the local library. I happened to turn right to an article that impacted me and was the source of inspiration for this blog. It was titled, It’s Time to Graduate From Self-Defeating Habits and Begin Your Glorious Future, by Martha Beck. I thought about the glorious future that I’m going toward and decided to read on.
I loved the simplicity of the author’s message when advising about how to get over a hardship. It was free of any sort of psychoanalysis and headiness, which is an approach that I very much appreciate and believe in as a therapist myself.
Here’s what she said:
“I want you to pick a day when you’ll be over this. It can be in a week or a year, but that will be your graduation day. Once it comes, you’re done with this subject.”
That’s right. Just decide and accept that “it’s done” and let it go. Graduate from the burden of your worry and just decide it’s beyond you. Hell yes! Process your stuff. Feel the emotions and then, please, learn to put it behind you.
Believe me, I get the “How the hell do you even do that? How do you let something go that was so significant, hurtful and the source of so much pain?” I write this post with conviction because (I was-SLASH- can still be) the girl that struggles to let a painful hurt go. It’s been one of my major life lessons that I continue to hone.
With no clue of how to let something go in my past, my over thinking and circling around a painful topic in conversations with friends or in my own head became more my issue. The issue wasn’t what had happened that initially caused me pain, it was how I was coping with it. Attempting to move forward while bringing my past crap into the present put a residue on every new situation. For example, when on a date with a hot new man, it was too bad that all I could think about was my hurt from my past relationship that was also on the date with us. A total set up for a crash and burn outcome. It was like carrying around stinky laundry everywhere I went. I freshened up all I could, but no matter how cleaned up I became, I always had the stink of my past with me. It put a damper on every new possibility.
To give you a picture of my inability to “let pain go,” I remember feeling really pissed off when friends changed the subject on my pain or didn’t hold the space for me to talk about it for the 100th time. I was convinced that, “They don’t care” or “They don’t get it.” Now, if this response from my people occurred when I initially went to them to seek support, these thoughts would have had more validity. However, after months and years of struggling with being caught in my own head, I see how their lack of attention to my perpetual need to talk about what had happened was their loving attempt to help me move forward. They didn’t want to give my obsessive thoughts more energy.
We have all experienced the person who appears to be continually stuck on something or someone. I’m all for processing through an issue so it can sit somewhere within that is more settled, although there’s a tipping point where there’s no more to say or do and it’s time to let go.
Think about what you’re still holding onto and pick a graduation day. Commit in your heart that when this day comes you will be graduated from this problem, meaning it will be officially behind you. The cool concept about graduation is that when you graduate from something, there’s no going back.
“We graduate every time we step forward without moving back.”
You can’t go back to high school because you have already graduated. You can’t redo something that’s done. So be done. Do what you need to do to work through your emotions and give yourself a specific date for the issue to be put in the past with the door firmly, yet comfortably closed. You deserve to walk into your future with light and love in your heart. In order to do this you need to free yourself of the heavy pains and burdens that you’re carrying with you into your future. It’s shading your light.
Free yourself friends by letting go. Your life will improve if you do so.
Above image is by photographer, Amy Lynn Bjornson.
Lost Love (How to Cope With A Lost Connection)
I believe that there’s so much to grow and learn from gifted by the people who are presented to us in life. Some people come into our experience for a hot second and others are here to stay for the long haul. My logical mind understands that some relationships are in our lives for a limited time. Meaning, the relationship teaches us a lesson or two, then exits. Sometimes we're able to accept the come and go of a particular relationship and other times it’s difficult to let go and get beyond the disappointment of the loss. (This article is more geared toward the loss of a relationship that exits because of a loss of connection, not a death.)
People coming in and out of our lives is a reality, but what do we do when the exit of a specific someone causes a lot of pain, confusion and discomfort?
I can speak for myself with saying that letting go of relationships, whether it be friendships or intimate love, and moving forward has been a challenge for me. Simply said, when I love and let someone in, I love hard and it hurts to let go. I've had relationships that have touched me to my core that are no longer in my life. This has lead to confusion, questions, pain and stagnation at points of my life. Learning to let go and allow a connection to exit our lives in a healthy way can be a challenge for some of us. As I mentioned earlier, I know it has been for me.
This begs the question of, “How Do I Move On and Let Go?” Here are some suggestions on where to start looking in order to find more acceptance around the loss of a significant connection.
Look to Your Childhood
We learned how to cope with loss and pain in our younger years, for better or worse. Meaning, we either learned healthy or unhealthy ways to deal with loss. Learning to move forward and gain acceptance around break ups and lost connections can benefit us greatly. Needless to say, some of us didn’t learn how to do this and it remains to hold us up in our adult lives. A sign that there's some work to do around this can be identified by feeling stuck in the past or ruminating about a particular person or relationship to the point of unhealthy. Regardless of where you stand with this, you can recreate and form a healthy relationship with letting go if you have the desire to do so.
Questions for self reflection:
What did you learn about love and letting go from the relationships you had with your parents? What did your parents model in regards to love and letting go?
Point the Finger Back to You
When a relationship ends, its common for pain and discomfort to come up, especially if it was a strong connection. Although, when pain continues to linger in a way that borders unhealthy, it’s important to start looking inward.
In this space, where pain and hurt are coming up surrounding a loss, it’s important to realize that it’s not really about the other person. This is shocking, right? After all, it feels SO about them and the lack of their unique presence in our life. I get it. I’ve been there, so let me explain further.
Obviously, to an extent, it is about them. However, that’s the surface issue. If you dig deeper, the intense pain that we feel is more about what we learned or didn’t learn about letting go and moving forward in our past. Our extreme pain or stagnation can also be stemming from an unhealthy level of self love. When we don't love ourselves it's a "go to" to focus on someone outside of ourselves. Taking the focus off the person who left and shifting it back our way to do some inward work is a required step in order to begin building a healthy way of coping with loss.
Gain a New Perspective Around Letting Go
Getting caught in a negative perspective around letting go can keep us from genuinely connecting and allowing in connection.
Putting energy toward forming a new perspective around letting go can cause a significant shift with how we experience people moving in and out of our lives. For example, trusting the timing of which people come in and exit, whether we agree with it or not, can help us feel more settled. Generally, putting more trust in the natural ebb and flow of people entering and leaving our lives can unleash us from thinking something should be different. Letting go can still cause discomfort, that's a given to some extent. Although, when we can find acceptance and positive perspective around a loss, it can help to cushion the blow.
The past connections that moved and taught us can never be taken away from us. Simply said; What happened happened. Our past and the people who played roles in our lives have played a part in who we have become. Generally speaking, in life, when we learn to let go before we can see what is ahead of us, something really interesting happens. Life hooks us up and opens doors for the new. New experiences, connections, people and places. This is not to take away from what was. Rather, it’s to be “in addiction to” the cool story of our lives that is continually unfolding.
* The above image was taken by Amy Bjornson, San Diego Photographer.